With news around Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony split, and recent rumors swarming around a possible separation between Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith,
many people are beginning to question who they can turn to as examples of love.
All over Facebook and twitter people posted comments i.e. “say it aint so! If Will and Jada break up there’s no hope for me.” “I really thought Jen & Marc would last. Will my relationship last?” And, no these post were not by high schoolers but from women 25 and over. Are these women serious? Why oh Why would anyone turn to Hollywood couples for belief in love?Within the media relationships have become so glamorized and made to appear so effortless, that people are forgetting that real relationships, the kind you dream of, require real work. Actors/Actresses probably buy into the idea of fairy-tale romance even more-so then the general public.
In real life your shoe doesn’t get caught in a pot-hole right before you get rescued from a handsome pediatrician who ditches his fiancé to marry his wedding planner (The Wedding Planner). It seems all too often the blurred line between what’s real and what’s scripted gets too blurred.Successful relationships require mutual respect, commitment, embracing the good with bad, risks, support, flexibility, having each other’s back, compromise, vulnerability, communication, etc. Love is not just a hodgepodge of feelings; Love is ACTIONABLE
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