How does one find themselves? That seems to be a question on alot of people's mind. How do i find out who i am? Hell i haven't even completely found out who i am as of yet either. But here are some tips to help you find atleast some part of yourself so you can start the process.
1. Date yourself. Yes, date yourself. Think of it as if you are going out on a first date. You have the butterflies and nervousness because you are just getting to know a person. Think of it that way, you are getting to know the basics of yourself. Your dates can be at home or out and about. Go to the movies, go out to eat, go to a museum, go to a performance. Whatever you do just go out and do the things that you enjoy. Don't feel stupid or dumb for taking yourself out on a date. You might actually find out that you like yourself alot.
2. Laugh at yourself. Yes, if you trip and almost bust your behind. Laugh at yourself for almost falling. This helps to lighten your mood and make your day go by better. Laughing at yourself can help to release alot of built up tension that you may have over work or a relationship. I know you have heard the saying that laughter is the best medicine. Well it is.
3. Look in the mirror. Yes i know some of us hate to look in the mirror, or we look in the mirror and really don't pay attention to ourselves. But serious stop for a few minutes and look in the mirror. Instead of pointing out all of your flaws, point out all of the beautiful and wonderful things about yourself. Hell do a turn in the mirror. If you have a big butt, stare at that for a minute and think about how blessed you are to have a nice big butt. If you have beautiful eyes, stare into those and think to yourself "Gosh, they are really beautiful." If you have nice lips, stare at that and think about how fortunate someone would be to kiss you.
4. Make a list. Make a list of all of the things you are good at. You might say to yourself that i am not good at anything, but that is not true. Think about how talented you are; whether it be as a writer, a musician, a artist, a comedian, a good listener. Write all of these down on a sheet of paper. Then put them on a note card. Carry this note card around with you to remind yourself of how good of a person you really are when you start to feel down. Of course i got this from many self help books. But it is a good thing to do.
5. Accept compliments. This sort of ties into making a list. Accept compliments from people about yourself, whether it be from someone you know or a stranger. This are things that people see in you and admire and that is something great to have. To know that someone admires you for a certain reason, can help pick up your day. It can also help you to sit down and realize some more good things about yourself. Put these compliments on a note card and look at them when you are feeling down on yourself. Or just remind yourself in your head all of the good things people say about you and you will begin to smile and yes maybe even blush a little bit.
6. Stop and smell the roses. Yea so it is a corny one liner, but it helps to help find yourself. Look at nature and observe all of the beautiful things around you. While you might say well this doesn't help with me finding myself. But in all actuality it will. I believe it will help because you begin to take stock of things around you and in your life. You are paying attention to details. There might be a toxic relationship that you never really considered to be so. Once you take stock and stop and really pay attention, you might consider getting rid of this from your life. This sort of goes back to looking in the mirror, making a list and accepting compliments. You begin to become more in tune with yourself and your subconsious. Take all of these tips day by day. You don't have to do everyting in one day, because change takes time.
So go through this short list and pick which one you want to do first. Then start completing the list. You will come to find out that you actually like who you are and that you are a good person. You will hopefully rid your life of all of the negative things you have to say about yourself and the negative people around you. So take that date, write that list, look in the mirror, stop and smell the roses and find your true beautiful self.
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