Ladies, it has been a while since I have taken a moment to sit down and put words to paper to chat with you, but I am back in full affect.

 

I wanted to take a breather and be an observer in life and pay attention to what was going on around me. Amazingly, I didn’t have to look far. Hanging out with my friends and listening to their various stories, I began to see a pattern; a pattern where single girlfriends don’t always have their friend’s best interest at heart when it comes to her man. And before I proceed with this article, let me just say, SOME single friends. Not all

Single friends, I know you mean well…this article is about the ones that don’t. There is nothing worse than a girlfriend of yours that does not have a man. It is amazing how she can become one of the major hang-ups with you and your boo. However, on the flip side of that ladies stop talking to your single girlfriends (and you know which ones I’m referring) about your man. It has always amazed me how someone who has never been in a relationship, can be so opinionated about one. I like to take it back to grammar school; a hypothesis is an educated opinion about a situation. Now, correct me if I am wrong, but how is a single friend that has never been in a relationship going to give an “educated opinion” about a situation that she knows nothing about? While you ponder that, let’s take a minute to break this thing down…All my chica’s currently dating and doing your own thing, big ups to you…all the for real single ladies that are strugglin’ in that area and getting bitter because of it please don’t hate on your friend that’s getting hers.

I know some aspects of the ins and outs of relationships…been there, done that…and doing it again. But for those ladies that have no clue, take a chill and don’t always be so ready to give your opinion. Regardless of if your friend is going through issues with her boo or not, the answer cannot always be “you should just get rid of him.” Now, I know being alone sometimes can be hard…especially when you have to look at your friend booed up all the time. But be happy for her and know that your day is coming. A real friend won’t make her friend choose between the two. She can love her boo and love you. There is no rule that states just because one relationship begins, the other has to end. And there is no relationship like that friendly sister bond…nothing can break that because things will go wrong with her relationship from time to time, but those are the moments when you tell her it will be ok and just listen to her vent. They’ll probably work it out and be back together the following day but for today, he’s that jerk that did her wrong and it only lasts a moment. Your job is to be there to see her through, because your time will come and you will look for the same in return.Until next time Ladies…

~M~